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Healing
Beyond
Discovery
We are here to support you.
Taking care of yourself should be a priority at this point in your journey. It can be very easy to allow yourself to be caught up in taking care of those around you, rather than taking care of yourself.
We're here to support you, via our peer-to-peer support group with over 100 members (and counting) across Australia.
Discovering your spouse or partner’s sexuality is no longer aligned with yours can be beyond devastating. In many cases this discovery is paired with uncovering deception, lies and cheating that may run deep.
You may be in a state of shock.
Your emotions may be in a spin cycle of fear, anger, sadness, loss and grief that may grip you, sometime all in the same minute.
The emotional wounds from this type of traumatic pain can be complicated and not easily understood by our friends and loved ones who can often hurt us further with well-intentioned words that only serve to make us feel more isolated.
That’s why we formed Healing Beyond Discovery.
We understand. We have been there. We have the lived experience of going through exactly what you are going through. Our members are from all stages of healing, from those who have only just found out about the status of their partner’s sexuality, to those who have gone through the many stages of the healing process and are living happy, whole lives.
Finding the right support for this type of complicated grief can be challenging. We want to make it easier by providing the type of understanding, support and friendship that only those who have walked in your shoes can truly know.
Who we are
Beyond discovery, there is healing
We offer :
A peer-to-peer support group on Facebook for Australian and New Zealand residents whose partners or former partners have come out as gay, lesbian, bi-sexual or trans but were previously living in straight relationships.
Support
A confidential and respectful space that promotes positivity and healing.
A space where you can discuss issues affecting you with people who have encountered the same experiences.
A space to breathe
We are a volunteer run organisation and should be seen as a supplement to professional help when needed.
Likeminded People
“Being part of a peer-peer support group has been such an important part of my ability to move through this challenging scenario. It is an invaluable resource which makes the biggest difference to people, at what can be the lowest point in their lives. ”
— Deb, WA
“I've been so happy to find a group of people who understand what I'm going through and to stand alongside as we each undertake our healing journeys, supporting each other along the way ”
— Jess, NSW
“No one can prepare you for the shock, deceit and disbelief that is brought on by this type of revelation. However the support I received in this online group of amazing individuals ultimately helped in my personal recovery. ”
— Leanne, NSW
We're here to help you, as you move throught this process
Here's how we do it:
If you contact us via our Support Request form, one of our members will reach out to you personally (always confidentially) to let you know how we can support you.
Support for you through this journey
We have members located in most states of Australia and talk via a private Facebook group. We also offer one-on-one and group zoom meetups where possible.
Our organisation is for people who have lived experience of this situation
On this website you fill find some resources including suggested reading material and podcssts and personal stories from others in similar situations and much more.
For more on what is available,
see our resources here.
We offer some suggested resources that might help you
We endeavour to give you a voice and let you be heard
Our organisation is made up of volunteers who are on the same journey. There are many ways you can help such as volunteering your time, or skills. If you wish to volunteer your skills and time, please reach out to our Admin Team.
